Condoms and Safer Sex: A Practical Refresher

Condoms are simple, inexpensive and widely available, and they remain one of the most effective ways to reduce the risk of many sexually transmissible infections and unplanned pregnancy. A quick refresher on using them well is useful at any age or stage of experience, because small mistakes are the usual reason they fail.

Choose the right fit

Condoms come in a range of sizes, shapes, thicknesses and materials. A condom that is too tight is more likely to break, while one that is too loose may slip. Trying a few brands and sizes helps you find one that is comfortable and secure. Fit is a safety issue as much as a comfort issue.

Check before use

Look at the expiry date and make sure the packet is intact; a small pocket of air when you gently press it is a good sign. Open it carefully with your fingers rather than teeth, scissors or sharp nails, all of which can tear the condom without you noticing.

Use the right lubricant

Water-based and silicone-based lubricants are generally safe with latex condoms. Oil-based products, including many lotions, massage oils and petroleum jelly, can weaken latex and cause breakage. If you prefer oil-based products, ask a pharmacist about non-latex condoms that are compatible with them.

Put it on correctly

Pinch the tip to leave a little room at the end, then roll the condom all the way down. If you realise it is inside out, start again with a new one rather than flipping it over, because the outside may already have been exposed to fluids.

Use a new one every time

Condoms are single-use. Use a fresh one for each act and whenever switching between different types of activity, which also helps prevent the transfer of bacteria from one area of the body to another.

Store them properly

Heat and friction damage condoms. Avoid keeping them in wallets, pockets or car glove boxes for long periods. A cool, dry place is best, and a small hard case protects them in a handbag or travel kit.

Know what to do if one breaks

If a condom breaks or slips off, stay calm. Speak promptly to a GP, sexual health clinic or pharmacist about your options, which may include emergency contraception or medication that can reduce the risk of HIV if it is started quickly.

Confident, consistent condom use is a sign of maturity and care, and most partners genuinely appreciate it.